I srsly need some advice!!!!

[Anne Mette]

Hi!
I am in very much need of advice. It is a very stupid problem, but this time I don't know what to do...

There is this guy... And he is asking for a chance to show me that he can take care of me even though he knows I'm kind of high maintenance!
Problem is that I am kinda embarrassed to hang around him and he's kinda ugly! (YES I am that shallow! Sorry!)
And I also have a huge problem trusting people (due to previous relationships.)

So what do I do???


Please give me some advice...

xxx
Anne

[bluebell]

Well do you like him or not? If you do, give it a go, if not, don't.

[Mandy]

yeah, bluebell, you true.

[Incapability]

Ask him to take it a little more slowly and get to know him. Unless you really, really dislike him. In that case, run. (kidding)

[Anne Mette]

Well I do like him, but I think he's so ugly I don't want to hang around him. And I've known him for three years, so I know him a lot. I don't know what's wrong with me and if I'm scared of a relationship or something. I just have a really hard time figuring this out!

[Rita, Oh Yes!]

It sounds to me like you're not attracted to him. You like him as a friend, but you're not attracted to him. Someone doesn't have to be insanely good looking to be attractive to you if you do like them that way, but if you don't, their flaws are probably more obvious. Maybe you should tell him that at this point you really only want to be friends with him. Then if anything happens in future, it happens, and if it doesn't, you're still friends? If you value his friendship, being honest with him is important.

[Anne Mette]

That is the best advice anyone has given me and I think you are so very right in me not being attracted to him. Thanks:) I am a bit more aware of what to do now!

xxx