Post by Anne Mette on Jul 29, 2006 9:43:23 GMT 9.5
OMFG!!!! My brother locked my hand in the toaster... I was taken to the doctor and can now only type with my left hand cos my right hand is wrapped in bandages! OMFG! Let's see how much I despise my brother now......
Post by Anne Mette on Jul 31, 2006 1:21:36 GMT 9.5
i have to give it in to some reparation thing... i woin't get it back in a LONG while, so i have to use the fossile comp downstairs. not at all good. i hate computers. and all my lovley picutes!!! i had just reached 1000 miranda piccies and now they're ALL gone!
Post by Incapability on Aug 15, 2006 6:25:50 GMT 9.5
Major rant ahead! no guaranties for grammar or spelling!
I am so pissed, there are no words to say it. anyone remember "Legwarmer" and the ugly business with the "get well" thread? I might have mentioned that we had a pretty nasty fight after that. if not; I will gladly retell the story because I am so PISSED!!!!!!!!!! we were talking via IM, and she was being pretty mean about you guys because "you did not dare react to her post, how cute!!" what she did not notice was that the thread was closed ... I carefully told her that I did not really appreciate the way she had handled things here, and she told me she did not care what I thought, and that she had expected more of you. perhaps I should have told her that you probably expected more of her as well ... I then continued that I had noticed several things that bugged me recently (her way of treating lower-educated people, for example), and she went all huffy saying how awfull I was, that I had about as much emotional complexity as a brick, because she was sitting there crying (which I could of course see splendidly throught two screens), and all I was doing was kicking her when she was down. we ended the conversation around there and did not talk for the following weeks. I mean, I tried, but she literally ran away from me, and what was worst, took our mutual friend with her. oh, and she let off some nice comments into my direction. (which I cannot stand at all, if she has so´mething to tell me, she can say it into my face). I realise that I was pretty mean in the IM-conversation, meaner than she ever saw me be to her, but I was not nearlx half as mean as I would have liked to be, and also not as mean as I could have been. then came the easter hols. towards the end I called her to ask how things were going to be. I would have accepte any answer. if she wanted to end it, so be that, though I'd be disappointed because I had thought our friendship to be stronger than that. but no, she was all chipper, telling me how proud of me she was, because I had called. she made me look like a beggar. then she said we would have to work on our firendship. I was reliefed, that was what I had hoped for, though it was not really what I expected. of course it was not all as it used to be. our relationship had become frail and sensitive, we spent less time together, phoned less, told us less. we were joking all right, but it was nothing more. towards the end of june I herd from another friend that her parents had had a major row. she never mentioned that to me, and she used to tell me everything. she talke to me less and less, and whenever I joined the group she stood in, I felt more unwelcome than I ever have in my life. she only talked to me when she wanted my help, you know, hankies and latin forms when our other friend wasn't there. I was planning a camping-night on the last night before the summer hols, and I have always considered her and our other friend invited, just like last year. one week before the party, I asked her what she was going to bring. she looked at me as though I were not really there and said "I'm not coming". I was so surprised that I asked why. she answered "I can't tell you. Why can't you just accept it?" the day before the party I asked that other friend what she was going to bring, she had already said she would come, later though, because she still had to work. upon my question, she became pretty embarassed and said "I'm not coming, I still have to work ..." work my ARSE! she's quite easy to influnce, and if that was not dearest leggie, I'll eat a broomstick! well, that was it. one and a half weeks ago I went to watch "Pirates of the Carribean" with my dad and sister. in the popcorn-queue were leggie and that mutual friend of ours, Simone. I winked. Simone winked back and nudged leggie to tell her I was there. no reacton, not even a glance. we happened to sit right behind them, and they both had books in their hands. I tried to start a conversation by joking "Books in the cinema? tsk tsk!" leggie'S response (very coldly)"we're only reading till the adverts start." no word, not a single glance after that. I was really impressed at how throroughly she is able to ignore a person she has declared undying love to. what scared me was the way Simone looked: the jewelry and the make-up were exactly Leggie's style. she used to ty and do that to me to, at the very beginning. I refused. now she apparently found someone to turn into an adoring clone. last friday, another friend stopped at my place for a chat. she told me she had gotten an SMS saying "I'll call you one of those days and tell you why I'm not friends with Tina anymore." yeah, right, instead of telling me what terrible crimes have earned me the end of our friendship. I stumbled across some of her posts at another forum. in one she told a girl without friends that "sometimes people just shrink". in another she complained that she had "two years of her identity stolen from her and was now going to show everyone" because we had once told her that her skirt was not exactly appropriate for school (her words were "saying how much they hated it - behind my back") this makes me sick. whenever I read it or think of it or think of her, I want to smash something into a million pieces. it makes my stomach twitch so that I wish I could throw up and get rid of all this anger. if this is the end, so be it. I can already see that it is for the better, our realtionship was completely one-sided, as long a the sun was shining, all was fine. that is what really disappoints me. I had thought our friendshhip was stronger than this. I tried to save it back at easter. perhaps I'm being arrogant because I say that it is her turn to do the first step - but after hearing from other people that it's over, I won't lower myself and beg her to tell me what I did wrong. I already know that one day, it won't hurt anymore. I long for that day, when I can laugh freely while she walks past without looking at me.
Do not be worrying about spellings, Incapa. Your post is a long way indeed from illegible.
Yeah, I remember Legwarmer and the manner in which she left (amazing! I remembered something! *cheers*). I'm sure a fair few of us would have replied to her final post had the topic not been closed.
This might sound like I'm being bitchy about her, but it sounds to me like she's acting like a complete drama queen. I have a friend who blows things out of all proportion just about all the time- when we went to the same school, we used to fall out all the time, and she used to act a bit like you're describing- like I was the next coming of Stalin, and she was pure as the driven snow. However, she and I usually managed to sort things out- surprisingly, she used to apologise after a while, but it's very wearing having a friend who will have an argument with you and then completely ignore you. People will not always agree with her. She might even find their opinions offensive. She should deal with it, that's life.
If she's ignoring you for some reason, without telling you the reason and making a big deal out of it to everyone else (eg. texting your friend, posting on forums, making snarky comments behind your back where you can hear- because I reckon people who do that want to be heard, otherwise they'd moan to their friends when they were hanging about elsewhere), she's probably just behaving like a drama queen and hoping everyone will flock to her, or that you will be desperate to know why. Either way, you don't need to put up with it. If she's too small minded to tell you what the hell her problem is, and your other friend is so easily led that she won't do anything, then you may as well forget about them. If she truly doesn't want to be your friend any more, then both of you are better off. If she wants you to crawl back and apologise, then she's screwed, but you're still better off.
If she starts making snarky comments behind your back again, either ignore her, walk up to her and demand to know what the fuck her problem is (I did that once when my friend kept shooting me evil looks for no apparent reason- I think she was hoping that I would get all tearful and ask what I'd done wrong), or, alternatively, throw tact out of the window and tell her to fuck off. Not subtle, but can relieve some angry tension.
OK, now Legwarmer is likely to hate me if she ever comes back on the forums again...
On my own note, whilst this is not exactly a rant, I am very sad because my dog died yesterday morning *moment of silence for Millie* The vets didn't know what it was- they thought she might have had a reaction to an insect bite the night before that caused liver failure. So yes, we are very sad at the moment.
If you can stay calm when all around you is in chaos, then you probably haven't completely understood the situation
Teamwork means never having to take all the blame yourself
The Light at the End of the Tunnel is the headlamp of an oncoming train
Post by Incapability on Aug 17, 2006 5:12:03 GMT 9.5
Oh, I'm so very sorry! it's always awful when a beloved animal dies. I'm an ocean of tears every time.
btw, I found out what terrible crimes I committed: I stopped saying hello when I came into the group she was in (which is crap, I did say hello, but no-one reacted, so I stopped going to them completely). I talked about nothing but myself (not bloody likely, because Legwarmer kept everyone listening to HER "problems" and did all the talking, only stopping to let people nod and say "Oh my GOD! How awful!" or something along those lines). and once, when a girl in our year (which Leggie did not like, because sadi girl has a very negative view on everything) disappeared for two days, Leggie and Simone supposedly sat, almost in tears, and I, being the uncaring little bitch I am, did not rect, or did not seem worried about it or some shit like that. I was worried, I'm just not the one to show emotions, which might make me look pretty harsh to others. she told all this to said friend, who had before promised to tell me, because she saw how the whole business was dragging me down. leggie however wanted me to figure all of this out on my own, and "if I couldn't do that, I'm probably not as intelligent as she thought." which makes me realise (once more) how awfully immature she really is. she is a lot younger than her actual 17 years (and I'll be 19 in a few weeks .. quite a difference), but she thinks she is so very mature, more so than everybody else. but if one is unable to take criticism from a friend, unable to get over an argument and acts up in a way like that, they can lick my shoes for all I care. well, I guess that was it then. she also said that "If I wanted to, I could talk to her, but I shouldn't expect friendship." how stupid. the only thing I might talk to her about are my old riding breeches she borrowed this summer because she started riding lessons. I told her to pay them later, when she ws sure shewouls stick with riding, with the original intention to give them to her as a present because I really don't need them anymore. but I feel no obligation to make presents to people who declare that they are no longer friends with me. I'm currently torn between making a scene by walking up to her saying "You still owe me money" and showing the grandeur she has not by simply not mentioning it again. but enough about me.